http://www.giantperspectives.com/read/transition_control_trust/
In the past two days I have talked with several people who have mentioned they are in a transition - either because of a job loss, job change, or personal change.
When they asked me about where I was, I tended to say the same thing - “I feel like we are in a transition season,” I said. Then it hit me - we all are, everyday.
Think about it. We are in constant transition as humans. From our kids outgrowing their clothes to the seasonal change in our atmosphere. Our world and ‘worlds’ are constantly changing.
As a person who likes change, I tend not to get too worked up about it… as long as I am in control! Take away my control, or perceived control, and that is when it feels like a “transition” season. Every person that said they were in “transition” had something taken from them and they felt out of control.
So, let me summarize. As long as I am in control I like change and can put up with transitions. As long as I am not in control the transition season feels heavy and hard.
Who is with me?
The issue is really control, and when things feel out of control that’s when it gets scary - unless, someone we trust is in control.
Does that make sense? What if things feel out of control at your work, but you suddenly realized someone you really trust is in control of decisions; don’t you seem to feel better?
Some of you may say, “Yeah, easy for you to say. No one I trust is in control of the changes in my life.”
So now we get to the real issue. Transitions are control issues. Control issues are trust issues. Who then do we really trust?
As leaders we must trust. The worst dominators in the world had the most harmful trust issues. As for me, I have my family, my partners, my friends, and employees I trust. Yet, deep inside me, I have chosen to put my trust in my Maker. When all else fails I know I at least have one source who I trust is in control, and that makes all the difference.
